Oh no I’m really sorry to hear that friend.. Also I am sorry that this is a late response I’ve been pretty busy lately and I am still trying to catch up on my messages so I apologize for not answering sooner! Anyway I hope that these pictures make you feel better and I hope that today was better for you *hugs* You deserve to be happy.
;AA; WEEHHHH THESE ANIMAL FRIENDS LOVE EACH OT HER SO MUCH
When someone shows me support or comforts me, sometimes I get deeply emotionally attached to that person. I can’t stop thinking of them, I always want to be in contact with them, I desperately want to please that person and have their approval, I ache when I don’t see them. I even get jealous and hurt if I see that person spending time with someone. In a completely non-romantic way, I love that person. My friend who also has BPD calls this “imprinting.”
Imprinting sets me up for disaster. I become clingy. I build up this grand illusion of how perfect this individual is because they’ve blessed me with their kindness.
And when that illusion is shattered by just the smallest disappointment—like not really maintaining contact with me or getting annoyed with something I do or say—I crash into a massive depression. I almost feel upset with that person, as many borderlines do, but instead I turn that into self-loathing. I panic that they will leave me, but at the same time I feel they are justified in doing so because I’m worthless. Then I distance myself as much as possible from that individual.
As you can imagine, many people are confused by this completely maladaptive behavior. Only after learning I had BPD did I even realize that “imprinting” isn’t normal. It’ll be the first thing I tackle in DBT.
bedbugsbiting replied to your photoset “Dude wrote like 4 rage comments full of slurs that were promptly…”
What the hell is this from? Also, dudes are terrifying.
From the Rolling Stone interview Anita Sarkeesian did. This dude was sooo sad/funny. I’d be scared if I took him seriously for a second, but mostly I felt bad cause I kept burning him and people would laugh.